You don't have to be a slave to trends or Instagram. nor do you have to pretend that what you wear doesn't matter. They say you eat with your eyes first, and try as we may, we judge people on the way they look--at least initially. Finding clothing and accessories that make you feel your best is not unnecessary or gay. It's a chance to let people see a glimpse of who you are before they get to know you. The owner of the Yankees said, "When you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good you play good." If it's good enough for Micky Mantle, it's good enough for you.